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1、WhopaysthecheckWhenamanandawomanhaveamealtogether,whowouldpaythecheckinChinanowadays?Is‘goingDutch’thecommonpracticeamongChinesecollegestudents?Doyouagreethestatement---moneygivesapersonameasureofpower?Ontheirfirstdate,MaureenandDennisateatoneofthemostpopularItalianrestaurantsintown
2、.Thetwo,whohadmetatafitnessclub,enjoyedeachother'scompanyatdinner,butwhenthewaiterlaterplacedthecheckbetweenthem,therelaxedmoodoftheeveningseemedtovanish.Whowouldpaythecheck?DennishadaskedMaureenout,butshehadbeentheonetosuggestdinnerandatthisparticularrestaurant.Heseemedtohesitate,t
3、henreachedforthebill."Oh,no,hewantedmetooffer,"Maureenthought."Isittoolatenow—howmuchshouldIpay"5Whenpossible,itisbesttodealwithdatingexpensesinthebeginning,accordingtoBruceBarnes,aTorontopsychotherapist.Forexample,supposethatyouliketopayyourwayonafirstdateandamaninvitesyoutodinnera
4、thisfavoriterestaurant,whichyouknowispricey.Youmightreply,"I'dlovetogooutwithyou,butthatrestaurantistooexpensiveforme."Then,youcouldsuggestanotherplace.Thisway,"youcanbothsitbackandenjoythemealwithoutanyhiddenexpectationsorassumptions,"Barnessays.6Sharingdatingexpensesneedn'tinvolve
5、usingacalculatortotabulatewhodrankmorewineorwhohaddessert.Ifyouwanttosplitthecheck,50-50isprobablybest,despitewhoatewhat.Barnessaysthatotheregalitarianmethodsofdating,suchaspayingonalternatedatesorreciprocatingwithhome-cookedmeals,canalsohelpyoumaintainanequalbalanceinarelationship.
6、Forexample,somewomenandmenfeelthatthepersonwhoinitiatedthedateregardlessofwhetheritwasthemanorthewomanshouldpickupthetabthefirsttime,thentheotherpersoncanreciprocatenexttime.7Barnessayssomemenwhoareinsecurefeelthattheirmasculinityisthreatenedwhenawomanpicksupthetab.Ifyourdatealwaysi
7、nsistsonpayingtheentirebillandyouprefertosharethecostatleastsometimes,youmightsay,"Iwouldn'thaveacceptedyourinvitationunlessIwantedtogooutwithyouandpayforhalf."8Ontheotherhand,somewomenwhoinsistonpaying50percentofeverythingoneverydatemayberevealingtheirowninsecurity:theymaybeunsureo
8、ftheirindependencea
