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1、哈佛大学幸福课第八课中英文讲义在上节课结束之前Iendedlasttimeby我跟大家分享了我生平的一些事sharingsomebiographicaldetailsaboutmylife.后来有人问我"是真的吗?"Somepeopleaskedmeafter,"aretheyreallytrue?"没错是千真万确的Soyes,theyareabsolutelytrue.这个故事我是从两个不同的角度来讲的AndItoldtheincidentfromtwodifferentperspectives—
2、第一个是消极者的第二个是积极者的firstasafaultfinder,andthenasameritfinder.大家要记住的很重要的一点是Nowtheimportantthingtokeepinmind我们所说的积极者并非whenwethinkaboutthemeritfinderisthatit'snotthat不会感到痛苦或失望themeritfinderdoesnotexperiencepainordisappointment,愤怒或羞辱恐惧或失望oranger,orhumility,or
3、fear,ordisappointment.至少无法追求自己的目标It'sverydisappointingtosaytheleast,是一件很让人失望的事nottobeabletopursueone'sgoal,如果这个目标碰巧是关于职业生涯的ifthegoalhappenstobeaprofessionalcareerinsquash.或者是如果自己是唯一一个Itisveryhumiliatingtobetheonlyperson没有拿到学位的人whofailsofaprogramandtoha
4、vetowalkaround而不得不在WillamJames大楼再呆一年forawholeyearinWilliamJameswhile就像脑袋长了一个角那么羞愧feelinglikeyouhaveahorncomingoutofhead.这种事没有快乐可言非常痛苦It'snotfun.It'spainful.但是积极者...对不起However,thedifferencebetweenameritfinder,sorry,积极者和消极者的区别在于abenefitfinderandafaultfin
5、deristhat,积极者明白thebenefitfinderunderstandsthat这世界是不会事事如愿的whilethingsdon'tnecessarilyhappenforthebest,但我们可以扭转坏事itispossibletomakethebestofthingsthathappen.事情会好转的一切会变顺利的ThingswillbeOK.Thingswillturnoutfine.可能需要点时间Itmaytakeawhile.可能要过一段时间才能看到曙光UntilIseeth
6、ebenefitofit,itmaytakeawhileandIwill可能要过一段时间才能忘了羞辱痛苦失望getoverthehumiliationorthepainorthedisappointment.但一切不好的事都会过去Butthat,too,shallpass.也就是说积极者明白Inotherwords,Thebenefitfinderunderstandsthat这些感觉是暂时的他会允许自己thesefeelingsaretemporary,giveshimorherselfthepe
7、rmission有人之常情他会明白tobehumanandthenunderstands事情最后会好转的thingswillturnoutfineattheend.我明白这点发生的都发生了这就是人生Iknowthat.Beenthere.Donethat.Partoflife.允许自己有人之常情包括允许自己Permissiontobehuman,whichincludespermission感受这些负面情绪允许自己失败toexperiencetheseemotionsandalsothepermis
8、siontofail.我们稍后会深入讲允许自己失败We'lltalkalotaboutthispermissiontofail等我们讲到完美主义时whenwetalkaboutperfectionism.因为完美主义对失败有强烈的情绪Becauseperfectionismisrealintenseforyourfailure如果做不到最好的那就是最差的orwefeelit'sallornothing.如果你不是完美无瑕那你就是一无是处Eitherwehaveacom
