《爱的艺术theartofloving(英文版)》

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1、TheArtofLovingErichFrommErichS.Fromm(March23,1900–March18,1980)wasaGermansocialpsychologist,psychoanalyst,humanisticphilosopher,anddemocraticsocialist.HewasassociatedwithwhatbecameknownastheFrankfurtSchoolofcriticaltheory.47I.ISLOVEANART?II.THETHEORYOFLOVE1.Love,theAnswertotheProb

2、lemofHumanExistence2.LoveBetweenParentandChild3.TheObjectsofLovea.BrotherlyLoveb.MotherlyLovec.EroticLoved.SelfLovee.LoveofGodIII.LOVEANDITSDISINTEGRATIONINCONTEMPORARYWESTERNSOCIETYIV.THEPRACTICEOFLOVEIISLOVEANART?Isloveanart?Thenitrequiresknowledgeandeffort.Orisloveapleasantsens

3、ation,whichtoexperienceisamatterofchance,somethingone“fallsinto”ifoneislucky?Thislittlebookisbasedontheformerpremise,whileundoubtedlythemajorityofpeopletodaybelieveinthelatter.Notthatpeoplethinkthatloveisnotimportant.Theyarestarvedforit;theywatchendlessnumbersoffilmsabouthappyandu

4、nhappylovestories,theylistentohundredsoftrashysongsaboutlove—yethardlyanyonethinksthatthereisanythingthatneedstobelearnedaboutlove.Thispeculiarattitudeisbasedonseveralpremiseswhicheithersinglyorcombinedtendtoupholdit.Mostpeopleseetheproblemofloveprimarilyasthatofbeingloved,rathert

5、hanthatofloving,ofone’scapacitytolove.Hencetheproblemtothemishowtobeloved,howtobelovable.Inpursuitofthisaimtheyfollowseveralpaths.One,whichisespeciallyusedbymen,istobesuccessful,tobeaspowerfulandrichasthesocialmarginofone’spositionpermits.Another,usedespeciallybywomen,istomakeones

6、elfattractive,bycultivatingone’sbody,dress,etc.Otherwaysofmakingoneselfattractive,usedbothbymenandwomen,aretodeveloppleasantmanners,interestingconversation,tobehelpful,modest,inoffensive.Manyofthewaystomakeoneselflovablearethesameasthoseusedtomakeoneselfsuccessful,“towinfriendsand

7、influencepeople.”Asamatteroffact,whatmostpeopleinourculturemeanbybeinglovableisessentiallyamixturebetweenbeingpopularandhavingsexappeal.Asecondpremisebehindtheattitudethatthereisnothingtobelearnedaboutloveistheassumptionthattheproblemofloveistheproblemofanobject,nottheproblemofafa

8、culty.Peoplethinkthattoloveissimp