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1、HelpingChildrenCopewithDifficultiesAschildrenprogressthroughtoddler-hoodtheyneedustobefirmandsetlimits.Thiswillhelpthembuildfrustrationtolerance.An"anythinggoes"policyisharmfultochildren,whogenerallythriveinknowingtherearerulestobefollowedandlimitstha
2、tmustbeadheredto.Asdifficultasitisformanyofus,saying"no"tonegativebehaviorsandbuildingawell-structuredenvironmentwithsetnaptimesandbedtimespromotesafeelingasecurityandbeingcaredfor.Learningthemeaningof"notnow,later"isacrucialstepinachild'sdevelopmento
3、ftoleranceforpain.Italsopromoteshealthyfrustration.Childrenlearnatayoungagethattheycannotalwayshavethingstheirway.Forexample,achildwhokeepskoshermustwaitacertainamountoftimeaftereatingmeatbeforeheeatsmilk.Hehastocontrolhisdesiretoeatnon-koshercandyint
4、hecheckoutlineatthesupermarket.Disciplineandself-controlarethereforeenhanced,makingiteasiertocopewithfrustration.Learningthemeaningof"inafewminutes","later",or"nottoday"isanotherverycrucialstepintheirdevelopmentoftoleranceforpain.DON'TMAKELIFETOOCOMFO
5、RTABLELet'sfaceit.Wealltry,asmuchaswearefinanciallyable,tocreateacomfortablelifestylefor(ourselvesand)ourchildren.Wetrytosatisfytheir(andour)desiresfortoys,clothesandothermaterialitems.Settingreasonablelimitsintheseareasandcreatingadistinctionbetweenw
6、hatthey"need"andwhatthey"desire"ishealthyforchildren.OurSagessay,"Eatbreadwithsalt,drinkwaterinsmallmeasure,sleepontheground,livealifeofdeprivation."(PirkeiAvos,"EthicsoftheFathers"6:4)Thisisnotacalltoasceticism,butapleaformoderation.Childrenwhogrowup
7、witheverydesirecateredtotendtohaveanattitudeofentitlement.Theyoftenfeel,"Lifeowesmesomething."Theydon'tknowhowtodealwiththepainofnothavingwhattheywant;theydon'tappreciatewhattheyhave;andtheymaynothaveahealthyleveloffrustrationtolerancewhenthingsdon'tg
8、otheirway.Childrenwhohaveeverythingdon'tknowhowtodealwiththepainofnothavingwhattheywant.Aspecificexampleofnotmakinglifetoocomfortablewouldbesharingabedroom.Manyparentsprefertohaveseparatebedroomsforeachchild.Itcertainlymakeslifemorecomfortable
