孩子，我该如何与你“谈生论死”？

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1、孩子，我该如何与你“谈生论死”？　　ParentingMistake#529：Ipromisedmyfive-yearolddaughter，Sonya，thatwecouldvisitGrandmaJoanieandGrandpaRoger“soon.”　　Thiswasimpossible.MyparentsdiedbeforeSonyawasborn.ButIdidn’tknowhowtotackle[处理]thewhathappens-after-we-dietalk，sowheneverthesubjectofmyparent

2、scameup，Ihadtriedtodivert[转移]herattentionorsayvague[含糊的]thingslike，“They’reveryfaraway.”　　I’mnotproudofwaitingfiveyearstotalkabouttheGreatBeyond注1.AndI’mnotsurewhatmademestepoverthethreshold[门槛]intoBlatant[公然的]Lie-ville[地域].Idon’tknowwhathappensafterdeathandIdon’tthinkwe

3、’resupposedtoknow，butIwasscaredoftellingmykidthat.MyauntdiedwhenIwas10，followedbymydadwhenIwas11，andmystepdad[继父]whenIwas16.Iremembermymomtryingtoexplaindeathtome，usingwordslike“peaceful”and“arelief[解脱]，”whichmademeonlymoreconfused.　　IknewSonyawastoodetail-oriented[注重细节的

4、]toacceptvaguedescriptions[描述].ButifImadeupsomehugepajama[睡衣]8partyintheskyoralandofeternal[永恒的]icecreamandfairies，thatwouldn’tflyeither.　　SothenextSaturdaymorning，whileSonyawastracing[描摹]heartswithhernewmarkers，wehadthisconversation：　　“Hey，rememberwhenIsaidwecouldgovisi

5、tGrandmaJoanieandGrandpaRoger？”　　“Yeah.”　　“Well，Iwaswrong.Weactuallycan’t.Becausetheydiedalongtimeago.”　　Sonyalaughedandsaid，“Notheydidn’t！”　　“Yes，theydid，”Icontinued.“Andafterwardstheybecameinvisible[看不见的]，butwecanthinkofthemandlookattheirpictures.Somepeoplesayit’sfunaf

6、terwedieandsomepeoplesayit’squiet.”　　“Ifyouhaveanyquestions，oryouwanttotalkaboutit，wecandothatanytime，”MyhusbandJayadded.　　Sonyashrugged[耸肩]andwentbacktoherartwork.JayandIstoodupslowly.Weweren’tsurethemessagehadgottenthrough；shedidn’tlookupsetsomuchasbored.Butwehigh-five

7、d[举手击掌]overherheadanyway.Crisis[危机]averted[避免].　　Untilpi？ata注2time.8　　Latelastfall，ather40thbirthdayparty，mybestfriend，Shoshana，climbeduponarockinherbackyardandexplainedtherulesofpi？atatoallofourkids.Shoshanahadbeengivenadiagnosis[诊断]ofStagefourcancer.Ihadwatchedherdefy[

8、藐视]allthedoctorsandprognoses[预测]andevendanceintotheO.R.注3forspinal[脊柱的]surgery[手术].Butwatchingherteeter