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1、WeChinesearenotbighuggers.Ahandshakeorapatontheshoulderisenoughtoconveyourfriendshiporaffectiontooneanother.Sowhenournewly-acquaintedWesternfriendsreachoutinpreparationforahug,someofusfeelawkward.Manyquestionsgothroughourhead.WhereshouldIputmyarms?Undertheirarmpitsoraroun
2、dtheirneck?WhatdistanceshouldImaintain?Shouldourcheststouch?It’sevenmoredifficultwithfriendsfromsomeEuropeancountries.ShouldIkissthemonthecheekwhilehugging?Whichside?Orisitbothcheeks?WhichsideshouldIstarton?Butitisn’tjustpeoplefromculturesthatemphasizea reservedness inexp
3、ressingphysical intimacy whofindhuggingconfusing.Hugscancausediscomfortoreven distress inpeoplewhovaluetheirpersonalspace.InarecentarticleforTheWallStreetJournal,USpsychologistPeggyDrexlersaidthatalthoughtheUSremainsa“mediumtouch”culture—“morephysically demonstrative than
4、Japan,whereabowistheall-purposehelloandgoodbye,butless demonstrative thanLatinorEasternEuropeancultures,wherehugsare robust andcanincludeakissonbothcheeks”,Americansdoseemtobehuggingmore.Frompoliticianstocelebrities,hugsaregiven willy-nilly tofriends,strangersandenemiesal
5、ike;andthepublichasbeenquicktopickupthepractice.Publicfiguresknowthatnothingprojectslikeabilitylikeagoodhug.USFirstLadyMichelleObamahasputherarmsaroundicyforeignleaderslikeRussianPrimeMinisterDmitryMedvedevandtheQueenofEngland,onthelatteroccasionbreachingroyal protocol.Po
6、psuperstarLadyGagaisalsoahug enthusiast,tellingherfansthat“Iwillalways,always,trymyverybesttowrapmyarmsaroundyouwhenImeetyou.”Butnotallaregratefultobeembraced,evenbythemostinfluentialandfamous.Tothem,anyhugisoffensiveifit’snotsincere.AmandaHess,writingforUSmagazineSlate,s
7、ayspublicfiguresshouldstopimposinghugsoneveryonetheymeet.Forthem,ahugisrarelyagestureofsincerefellowship, compassion oraffection.It’sallpartofashow.Hugsarefalselyintimatepowerplaysusedbypublicfigurestoestablishtheirsocialdominanceoverthoseintheirgrasp.CeciliaWalden,aBriti
8、shjournalistwritingforTheTelegraphwholivesinNewYork,holdsthesameopinion.“Power-hugging”,asshecal
