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1、Relatetome:907925560Howtomakeyourselfworkwhenyoujustdon’twanttoThere’sthatprojectyou’veleftonthebackburner–theonewiththedeadlinethat’sgrowinguncomfortablynear.Andthere’stheclientwhosephonecallyoureallyshouldreturn–theonethatdoesnothingbutcomplainandeatupyo
2、urvaluabletime.Wait,weren’tyougoingtotrytogotothegymmoreoftenthisyear?Canyouimaginehowmuchlessguilt,stress,andfrustrationyouwouldfeelifyoucouldsomehowjustmakeyourselfdothethingsyoudon’twanttodowhenyouareactuallysupposedtodothem?Nottomentionhowmuchhappieran
3、dmoreeffectiveyouwouldbe?Thegoodnews(anditsverygoodnews)isthatyoucangetbetteraboutnotputtingthingsoff,ifyouusetherightstrategy.Figuringoutwhichstrategytousedependsonwhyyouareprocrastinatinginthefirstplace:Reason#1Youareputtingsomethingoffbecauseyouareafrai
4、dyouwillscrewitup.Solution:Adopta“preventionfocus.”Therearetwowaystolookatanytask.Youcandosomethingbecauseyouseeitasawaytoendupbetteroffthanyouarenow–asanachievementoraccomplishment.Asin,ifIcompletethisprojectsuccessfullyIwillimpressmyboss,orifIworkoutregu
5、larlyIwilllookamazing.Psychologistscallthisapromotionfocus–andresearchshowsthatwhenyouhaveone,youaremotivatedbythethoughtofmakinggains,andworkbestwhenyoufeeleagerandoptimistic.Soundsgood,doesn’tit?Well,ifyouareafraidyouwillscrewuponthetaskinquestion,thisis
6、notthefocusforyou.Anxietyanddoubtunderminepromotionmotivation,leavingyoulesslikelytotakeanyactionatall.Whatyouneedisawayoflookingatwhatyouneedtodothatisn’tunderminedbydoubt–ideally,onethatthrivesonit.WhenyouhaveaRelatetome:907925560preventionfocus,insteado
7、fthinkingabouthowyoucanendupbetteroff,youseethetaskasawaytohangontowhatyou’vealreadygot–toavoidloss.Fortheprevention-focused,successfullycompletingaprojectisawaytokeepyourbossfrombeingangryorthinkinglessofyou.Workingoutregularlyisawaytonot“letyourselfgo.”D
8、ecadesofresearch,whichIdescribeinmybookFocus,showsthatpreventionmotivationisactuallyenhancedbyanxietyaboutwhatmightgowrong.Whenyouarefocusedonavoidingloss,itbecomesclearthattheonlywaytogetoutofdangeristotakei