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1、成长教育从恋爱开始 ZhouQifei,19,afreshmanEnglishmajoratBeijingTechnologyandBusinessUniversity,isstrugglingwithmorethanjustfittingintohernewenvironmentoncampus. 19岁周琪菲(音译)是就读于北京工商大学(招生办)英语专业的大一新生除了努力适应校园新环境外她似乎有更多的烦心事要解决 OnValentine’sDayanupperclassmanshehadonlyrecentlymetunexpectedlyga
2、veheraroseandhintedthathewouldlikehertobehisgirlfriend.TheromanticmoveconfusedZhou. 情人节那天她意外地收到了刚认识不久的学长送来的玫瑰这是个求爱信号这样浪漫的举动却令周琪菲感到困惑 “It’sreallyagitatingme.I’mnotreadytosayyesnow,butIalsodon’twanttolosehisfriendship,”shesaid.“Idon’tknowhowtodealwiththis.” “这让我很纠结我没准备好接受他的追求但我又
3、不想失去这个朋友”她说“我真不知该办” ButZhouisn’talonewithherworries.ArecentsurveyreleasedbyMycosGroup,aconsultancy,revealsthatnearly30percentoffirstyearstudentsatChineseuniversitiesareperplexedwhenitestoromanticrelationships.Abouthalfoftherespondentsstateda“lackingabilitytomunicate”asamajorobst
4、acletoromanticrelationships. 为情感而焦虑的不止周琪菲一人根据麦可思咨询公司最近的一项调查显示中国30%的大学新生遭遇恋爱难题近一半的受访者表示在恋情中的主要绊脚石是“不善沟通” LeiWuming,aprofessorinpsychologyatWuhanUniversityofTechnology,explainedthatstudentsareoverwhelmedbytheirstudiesinhighschool. 武汉理工大学(微博招生办)心理学教授雷五明解释说这是因为学生们的高中生活完全被学业主导 “So
5、whentheyarriveoncampus,theyfindthemselvesatalossabouthowtodealwithrelationships,”hetoldWuhanMetro. 他在接受《武汉晨报》采访时说:“因此当他们步入大学处理情感问题时便不知所措” Someareinarticulatewhentheydevelopaloveinteresttowardtheoppositesex,andmanymalestudentsarebashfulaboutconfessingtheirfeelingsforagirl. 有些学生
6、在面对爱慕对象时不善言辞很多男生羞于承认自己对某位女生的好感 “Seizethechancewhentherearesparksoflove.Thetrickistousemoresubtlewaysofmunication,suchaschattingonQQorsendinggiftstoshowyourinterest,”Leisaid.“Timingisalsoimportant.” “一旦擦出爱的火花就要把握时机诀窍就在于利用更巧妙的办法来沟通感情比如聊QQ或者送个小礼物表露心迹”雷教授说“时机也很关键” Butthosewhohavea
7、lreadyfoundloveoftenhaveevenworsemunicationproblems,especiallyforthoseinalongdistancerelationship. 但那些已心有所属的人却常常面临着更加严重的沟通问题尤其是对那些异地恋人来说 SunXiaolin,afreshmanmajoringinEnglishatNanjingUniversity,hasbeeninarelationshipsincehighschool.Butongraduating,hisgirlfriendenrolledatPekingU
8、niversity.“Sinceeachofusisoccupiedwithdi