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1、亲爱的别生气:10种方法教你控制愤怒情绪Herearesomepracticalsuggestionsfordealingwithanger.下面是几个控制愤怒情绪的实用方法。1.Whenyouareangrysaynothing愤怒时请保持沉默Ifwespeakinangerwewilldefinitelyaggravatethesituationandquitelikelyhurtthefeelingsofothers.Ifwespeakinangerwewillfindthatpeoplerespondinkind,creatingaspiralofnegativeange
2、r.Ifwecanremainoutwardlysilentitgivestimefortheemotionofangertoleaveus.人在愤怒时说出的话必定是火上浇油,很容易伤害他人感情。我们发现,在愤怒时讲话,对方也会消极回应,使气氛更加紧张。如果能保持沉默,或许愤怒反倒会渐渐平息。“Whenangrycounttotenbeforeyouspeak.Ifveryangry,counttoonehundred.”-ThomasJefferson“愤怒的时候,先数到十再开口;如果非常愤怒,那就数到一百吧。”——托马斯·杰斐逊2.Beindifferenttothosewh
3、oseektomakeusangry无视那些激怒我们的人Somepeoplemayunfortunatelytakeamaliciouspleasureintryingtomakeyoumad.However,ifwecanfeelindifferenttothemandtheirwords;ifwefeelitisbeyondourdignitytoevenacknowledgethem,thentheirwordsandactionswillhavenoeffect.Also,ifwedonotrespondinanywaytotheirprovocation,theywil
4、lloseinterestandnotbotherusinthefuture.有些人的趣味就是那么恶俗,总是故意挑你生气。但是,如果我们无视他们的言行,觉得他们的言行根本就不值得费心,那么这些言行自然就不攻而破了。而且,不管他们怎么挑拨,只要我们不予理睬,他们也会感到自讨没趣,便也不再骚扰我们。3.Usereasontostopanger理智停止愤怒Whenwefeelangercomingtotheforetrytotakeastepbackandsaytoyourself“Thisangerwillnothelpmeinanyway.Thisangerwillmakethes
5、ituationworse.”Evenifpartofusremainsangryourinnervoiceishelpingustodistanceourselffromtheemotionofanger.当我们怒上心头时,赶紧打住,告诉自己:“这么生气又能怎样呢?发火只能使一切更糟吧。”就算当时确实有些气愤不过,但在心里默念这些能稍微趋缓愤怒情绪。4.LookkindlyuponOthers和善看待对方Anothervisualization,suggestedbyspiritualteacherParamhansaYogananda,istoseetheanger-rous
6、ingagentasa5yearoldchild.Ifyouthinkoftheotherpersonasahelpless5yearoldchildyourcompassionandforgivenesswillcometothefore.Ifyourbabybrotheraccidentallystabbedyou,youwouldnotfeelangeranddesiretoretaliate.Instead,youwouldjustfeelheisjusttooyoungtoknowanybetter.Thisexercisemaybeparticularlyuseful
7、forclosemembersofthefamilywhoattimesevokeyouranger.还有一个是视觉化的方法,用精神导师帕拉姆汉萨·尤迦南达的话来说,就是把对方看成一个耍脾气的5岁小孩。一旦你把对方看成一个无助的5岁小孩,心里就会感到同情与宽容了。如果是你的小弟弟不小心刺伤了你,你不至于愤怒到想要报复吧?或许,你会觉得弟弟太小还不懂事。当家人偶尔使你抓狂时,这个办法确实很管用。5.ValuePeacemorethanange珍惜平和心态,远离愤怒情绪Ifweval
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