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1、Hi.I'mheretotalktoyouabouttheimportanceofpraise,admirationandthankyou,andhavingitbespecificandgenuine.嗨。我在这里要和大家谈谈,向别人表达赞美,倾佩和谢意的重要性,并使它们听来真诚,具体。AndthewayIgotinterestedinthiswas,Inoticedinmyself,whenIwasgrowingup,anduntilaboutafewyearsago,thatIwouldwanttosaythankyo
2、utosomeone,Iwouldwanttopraisethem,IwouldwanttotakeintheirpraiseofmeandI'djuststopit.AndIaskedmyself,why?Ifeltshy,Ifeltembarrassed.Andthenmyquestionbecame,amItheonlyonewhodoesthis?So,Idecidedtoinvestigate.之所以我对此感兴趣,是因为我从我自己的成长中注意到,几年前,当我想要对某个人说声谢谢时,当我想要赞美他们时,当我想接受他们
3、对我的赞扬,但我却没有说出口。我问我自己,这是为什么?我感到害羞,我感到尴尬。接着我产生了一个问题,难道我是唯一一个这么做的人吗?所以我决定做些探究。I'mfortunateenoughtoworkintherehabfacility,soIgettoseepeoplewhoarefacinglifeanddeathwithaddiction.Andsometimesitcomesdowntosomethingassimpleas,theircorewoundistheirfatherdiedwithouteversayin
4、ghe'sproudofthem.Butthen,theyhearfromallthefamilyandfriendsthatthefathertoldeverybodyelsethathewasproudofhim,buthenevertoldtheson.It'sbecausehedidn'tknowthathissonneededtohearit.我非常幸运的在一家康复中心工作,所以我可以看到那些因为上瘾而面临生与死的人。有时候这一切可以非常简单地归结为,他们最核心的创伤来自于他们父亲到死都未说过“他为他们而自豪”。但
5、他们从所有其它家人或朋友那里得知,他的父亲告诉其他人为他感到自豪,但这个父亲从没告诉过他儿子。因为他不知道他的儿子需要听到这一切。Somyquestionis,whydon'tweaskforthethingsthatweneed?Iknowagentleman,marriedfor25years,who'slongingtohearhiswifesay,"Thankyouforbeingthebreadwinner,soIcanstayhomewiththekids,"butwon'task.Iknowawomanwho'
6、sgoodatthis.She,onceaweek,meetswithherhusbandandsays,"I'dreallylikeyoutothankmeforallthesethingsIdidinthehouseandwiththekids."Andhegoes,"Oh,thisisgreat,thisisgreat."Andpraisereallydoeshavetobegenuine,butshetakesresponsibilityforthat.Andafriendofmine,April,whoI'veha
7、dsincekindergarten,shethanksherchildrenfordoingtheirchores.Andshesaid,"Whywouldn'tIthankit,eventhoughthey'resupposedtodoit?"因此我的问题是,为什么我们不索求我们需要的东西呢?我认识一个结婚25年的男士,他渴望听到他妻子说,“感谢你为这个家在外赚钱,这样我才能在家陪伴着孩子。”但他从来不提出这样的要求。我认识一个精于此道的女士。每周一次,她见到丈夫后会说,“我真的希望你为我对这个家和孩子们付出的努力而感谢
8、我。”他会应和到“哦,真是太棒了,真是太棒了。”赞扬别人一定要真诚,但她对赞美也有责任。一个从我上幼儿园就一直是朋友的叫April的人,她会感谢她的孩子们做了家务。她说:“为什么我不表示感谢呢,虽然他们本来就要做那些事情。”So,thequestionis,whywasIblockingi