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1、10BiggestLifeRegretsWoulda,Shoulda,Coulda:WhatDoYouRegret?Regrets—we'resureyou'vehadafew.Fromlosingtheonethatgotawaytopickingthewrongcareerpath,seehowyoursstackupagainstthemostcommoncausesofremorsereportedinanewsurvey.Whenyoulookbackonyourlife,isthereanythingyouwis
2、hyoucouldchange?Mostofuswouldsayyes—andwe’renotaloneinthatsentiment,accordingtoanewNorthwesternUniversitystudythatcategorizedandrankedAmericans’biggestliferegrets.“Regretshelpilluminatemistakeswehavemadeandallowustolearnfromthem,”saysstudyco-authorMikeMorrison,agra
3、duatestudentinthedepartmentofpsychologyattheUniversityofIllinoisatUrbana-Champaign.“Thestingofregretcanmotivateustomakepositivechangesinourlives.”Amongthemorefascinatingfindings:Twiceasmanywomenasmen(44percentcomparedto19)reportedalove-orfamily-relatedregret;menwer
4、eslightlymorelikelythanwomentohavecareeroreducation-relatedremorse.Seewhatelsesurveyparticipantsreportedregrettingmost—andhowyourdo-overwishliststacksup.LoveStinks:RomanticRegretsIfyoustopandthinkaboutthestuffofsadlovesonglyrics—theonewhogotaway,theonewhobrokeyourh
5、eart,andtheoneyoushouldneverhavegotteninvolvedwithinthefirstplace—youwon’tbetoosurprisedtolearnthat18percentofpeoplesurveyedputa romanticrelationshipatthetopoftheirregretlist.Wanttokeepyourcurrentornextrelationshipfromimploding?Learnhowtofightfair.“Avoidingconflict
6、canbethekissofdeathinrelationships,butdon’tventangertowardeachother[either],”saysChristineM.Allen,PhD,apsychologistandalifecoachinNewYorkCity.“Instead,useawarenessofhurtandangertoexpressmoredirectlyandconstructivelyyourneedsandconcerns.”FamilyFeuds:RelativeRegretsH
7、aven’tspokentoyoursistersinceyoulivedunderthesameroof?Thenextmostcommontypeofregretswere family-related,which16percentofpeoplereported.Amongthemoreprevalentissuesweredisagreementsorargumentsthatgotoutofhand.“Inmanycases,peoplewishedthattheyhadresolvedfamilyissuesso
8、oner,ifthey’dbeenresolvedatall,”saysstudyco-authorNealRoese,amarketingprofessoratNorthwesternUniversity.Itcanbedifficulttoresolveconflictswithpeo