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1、中西方婚姻差异(MarriagedifferencesbetweenChinaandWesterncountries)Thesamesentence,"Iloveyou",maymeandifferentthingstotheEastandthewest.Whenanorientalsays"Iloveyou",itisnotonlyanexpression,butalsoapromiseandanoath.Itexpresses:"Iloveyounow.Iwillloveyouandloveyouforever.".Iwillonlyloveyou,Iw
2、illlivewithyouthroughthickandthin,saidofacouple.WhenWesternerssay"Iloveyou",theydon'thavetheseadditionalsubtext.That'sjustsaying:"Iloveyounow,andthat'smoreabouthowmuchtheemotionhasreached,orwhereyouareinmymindatthemoment.".Orientalpeopleoncesaid"Iloveyou"(andaccepted),istwopeopleon
3、aboat,then,orstandtogetherthroughstormandstress.Westernersarealwaystwoboats.Whentheysay"Iloveyou",theyarejusttwoboatsattractingeachotherandcomingintoaharbortogether.Afterthat,thereweretwoboats,perhapssomeofthem,perhapseachgoingonthesamevoyage.SowhenWesternerssay"Iloveyou",intheOrie
4、ntal'sopinion,iftheyarenotlying,theyareswearingandproposing.Infact,theonewhospeaksisoftennotlying,butdoesnothavethequalificationsrequiredbytheOrientals-forexample,celibacy,andnoplansforwhattodofromnowon.WhenWesternerssay"Iloveyou"toWesterners,Westernerswillbepleased,touched,oraccep
5、tedbytheirownunderstanding.Butoftendonotunderstandthespeakerneedsdeterminationandcourage,butdonotknowifaccepted,toshowthesamedeterminationandresponsibility.IfWesternersreallyunderstand,perhapsbecauseofitsseverityorbecausetheycannotreturnandbefrightenedandchangecolor,veryguilty.Orie
6、ntalpeoplebelievethat"love"isalwayscombinedwithcertain"righteousness"together,itisfirmandreliable,somarriageis"friendship","marriageisenyi".Nobelow,donotintendtoeverlastingloveisnottrue,undesirable,anditsgoldcontentisalsogreatlyreduced.Therefore,Westerners"Iloveyou",theOrientalpeop
7、letendtothinkhastyandfrivolous.Westerners,however,believethatfeelingsareinaccordancewithnature,loveisthesame,loveisnotdivided,loveshouldenjoythesweetnessoflove,ratherthantoconsidertheresponsibilityandmorality,thatwillonlydestroythefeelingsofthemoment.LiketheOriental,loveispermanent
8、,formulaic,andmoral,anditi