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1、斯坦福大学英文演讲：别在不断优秀中沦落平庸（下）□thereisanalternative,however,anditmaybeonethathasn'toccurredtoyou.letmetrytoexplainitbytellingyouastoryaboutoneofyourpeers,andthealternativethathadn，toccurredtoher・acoupleofyearsago,iparticipatedinapaneldiscussionatharvardthatdeaItwithsomeofthesesamematters,an
2、dafterwardiwascontactedbyoneofthestudentswhohadcometotheevent,ayoungwomanwhowaswritingherseniorthesisaboutharvarditself,howitinstillsinitsstudentswhatshecalledself-efficacy,thesensethatyoucandoanythingyouwant,self-efficacy,or,inmorefamiliarterms,self-esteem,therearesomekids,shesaid,wh
3、ogetanaonatestandsay,"igotitbecauseitwaseasy・”andthereareotherkids,thekindwithself-efficacyorself-esteem,whogetanaonatestandsay,"igotitbecausei，msmart・”□不过，还有另外一种情况，或许中年危机并不会发生在你身上。让我告诉你们一个同伴的故事来解释我的意思吧，还有一个她没有遇到过的可能。几年前，我在哈佛参加了一次小组讨论会，谈到这些问题。后来参加这次讨论的一个学生给我联系，这个哈佛学生正在写有关哈佛的毕业论文，讨论哈佛是
4、如何给学生灌输她所说的“自我效能”，一种相信自己能做一切的意识。自我效能或更熟悉的说法“自我尊重”。她说有些在考试中得了优秀的有些学生会说“我得优秀是因为试题很简单。”但另外一些学生，那种具有自我效能感或自我尊重的学生，考试得了优秀会说“我得优秀是因为我聪明。”□again,there'snothingwrongwiththinkingthatyougotanabecauseyou'resmart・butwhatthatharvardstudentdidn，trealize一anditwasreallyquiteashocktoherwhenisuggestedi
5、t—isthatthereisathirdalternative.trueself-esteem,iproposed,meansnotcaringwhetheryougetanainthefirstplace.trueself-esteemmeansrecognizing,despiteeverythingthatyourupbringinghastrainedyoutobelieveaboutyourself,thatthegradesyouget——andtheawards,andthetestscores,andthetrophies,andtheaccep
6、tanceletters一arenotwhatdefineswhoyouare・□再说一遍，认为得了优秀是因为自己聪明的想法并没有任何错，不过，哈佛学生没有认识到的是他们没有第三种选择。当我指出这一点时，她十分震惊。我指出，真正的自尊意味着最初根本就不在乎成绩是否优秀。真正的自尊意味着对此问题的足够认识：尽管你在成长过程中的一切都在教导你要相信自己，但你所等获得的成绩，还有那些奖励、成绩、奖品、录取通知书等所有这一切，都不能来定义你是谁。□shealsoclaimed,thisyoungwoman,thatharvardstudentstaketheirsense
7、ofself-efficacyoutintotheworldandbecome,assheputit,ainnovative.”butwheniaskedherwhatshemeantbyinnovative,theonlyexampleshecouldcomeupwithwas"beingceoofafortune500.”that，snotirrnovative,itoldher,that，sjustsuccessful,andsuccessfulaccordingtoaverynarrowdefinitionofsuccess・trueinnovationm
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