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1、www.TopSage.com大家网3/3David,mynext-doorneighbor,hastwoyoungkidsagedfiveandseven.Onedayhewasteachinghisseven-year-oldsonKellyhowtopushthelawnmoweraroundtheyard.Ashewasteachinghimhowtoturnthemoweraroundattheendofthelawn,hiswife,Jan,calledtohimtoaskaquestion.As
2、Davidturnedtoanswerthequestion,Kellypushedthelawnmowerrightthroughtheflowerbedattheedgeofthelawn--leavingatwo-footwidepathleveledtotheground! 我的邻居大卫,有两个小孩,一个5岁,另一个7岁。一天,大卫正在教他7岁的儿子凯利如何使用割草机割草。当教到怎样在草坪尽头将割草机掉头时,他的妻子简突然喊他,询问一些事情。当大卫转过身回答简的问题时,凯利却把割草机推到了草坪边的花
3、圃上--结果割草机所过之处,花尸遍地,原本美丽的花圃留下了一条2尺宽的小径。 WhenDavidturnedbackaroundandsawwhathadhappened,hebegantolosecontrol.Davidhadputalotoftimeandeffortintomakingthoseflowerbedstheenvyoftheneighborhood.Ashebegantoraisehisvoicetohisson,Janwalkedquicklyovertohim,putherhand
4、onhisshoulderandsaid,"David,pleaseremember...we'reraisingchildren,notflowers!"Janremindedmehowimportantitisasaparenttorememberourpriorities.Kidsandtheirself-esteemaremoreimportantthananyphysicalobjecttheymightbreakordestroy.Thewindowpaneshatteredbyabaseball
5、,alampknockedoverbyacarelesschild,oraplatedroppedinthekitchenarealreadybroken.Theflowersarealreadydead.Wemustremembernottoaddtothedestructionbybreakingachild'sspiritanddeadeninghissenseofliveliness. 大卫转过身,面对眼前的情景,怒不可遏。要知道,这个花圃花费了大卫多少时间和精力才侍弄成今天这个令邻居们无比羡慕的
6、样子呀!他提高嗓门准备训斥凯利,这时简快步地走到他身边,用手轻轻地拍了拍他的肩膀,说:"大卫,别忘了--我们是在养小孩,而不是在养花!" 简的一番话提醒了我:作为父母我们应该清楚孩子和花究竟孰重孰轻。孩子以及他们的自尊要比被打破或损坏的任何东西都要重要得多啊!那些曾经被孩子们的棒球砸坏的窗户、不小心碰倒的台灯以及在厨房里掉在地上摔碎的碟子都是已经毁坏了的东西。正如花圃里被割掉的花再也不能复原了,我们就不要再去打破一个小孩子稚嫩纯净的心灵,使他们原来充满活力的感觉变得迟钝,乃至麻木。 Iwasbuyinga
7、sportcoatafewweeksagoandMarkMichaels,theownerofthestore,andIwerediscussingparenting.Hetoldmethatwhileheandhiswifeandseven-year-olddaughterwereoutfordinner,hisdaughterknockedoverherwaterglass.Afterthewaterwascleanedupwithoutanyrecriminatingremarksfromherpare
8、nts,shelookedupandsaid,"Youknow,Ireallywanttothankyouguysfornotbeinglikeotherparents.Mostofmyfriends'parentswouldhaveyelledatthemandgiventhemalectureaboutpayingmoreattention.Thanksfornotdoingthat!" Onc