放下怨恨，乐享人生

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1、放下怨恨，乐享人生　　Youhearpeoplesaythisallthetime：“IhavearighttobeupsetbecauseofthewayI’vebeentreated.Ihavearighttobeangry，hurt，depressed，sad，and1）resentful.”Learningtoavoidthiskindofthinkingisoneofmysecretsforlivingalifeofinnerpeace，success，andhappiness.Anytimeyou’refilledwithresentment，you’r

2、eturningthecontrolsofyouremotionallifeovertoothersto2）manipulate.　　Ibecameawareofhowpowerfulthislessonwasmanyyearsagowhilesittinginonameetingof12peoplewhowereinarecoverygroupforalcoholismanddrugaddiction.All12ofthosepeoplewereaccustomedtoblamingothersfortheirweaknesses，usingalmostanyex

3、cuseasarationaleforreturningtotheirself-defeatingways.Onaposterhangingintheroomwerethesewords：“Inthisgroup，therearenojustifiedresentments.”　　Regardlessofwhatanyonewouldsaytoanothergroupmember，nomatterhowconfrontationaloruglytheaccusations，eachpersonwasremindedthattherearenojustifiedres

4、entments.Youmayneedtoconsiderwhomyouresentbeforeyoumakeyourownchoiceaboutwhetherthisisusefulforyou.Resentmentsgiveyouanexcuseto5returntoyouroldways.Thisiswhatgotyouthereinthefirstplace！　　Removingresentmentandblamefromyourlifemeansneverassigningresponsibilitytoanyoneforwhatyou’reexperie

5、ncing.Itmeansthatyou’rewillingtosay，“ImaynotunderstandwhyIfeelthisway，whyIhavethisillness，whyI’vebeenvictimized，orwhyIhadthisaccident，butI’mwillingtosaywithoutanyguiltorresentmentthatIownit.Ilivewith，andIamresponsiblefor，havingitinmylife.”Whydothis？Ifyoutakeresponsibilityforhavingit，th

6、enatleastyouhaveachancetoalsotakeresponsibilityforremovingitorlearningfromit.　　Ifyou’reinsomesmall（perhapsunknown）wayresponsibleforthat3）migraineheadacheorthatdepressedfeeling，thenyoucangotoworktoremoveitordiscoverwhatitsmessageisforyou.If，ontheotherhand，someoneorsomethingelseisrespons

7、ibleinyourmind，thenofcourseyou’llhavetowaituntiltheychangeforyoutogetbetter.Andthatisunlikelytooccur.　　First，youhavetogetpastblame.Thenyouhavetolearntosendlovetoall，ratherthanangerandresentment.Justasnoonecandefineyou，neitherdoyouhavetheprivilegeofdefiningothers.Whenyoustopjudgingand