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1、ThefamilyisaplaceinwhichchildrenlearntoParentingandChildren’sDevelopmentParentingstylesarebroadpatternsofchildrearingpractices,values,andbehaviors.AccordingtoDianaBaumrind,fourtypesofparentingstylesareindulgent(moreresponsivethandemanding),authoritarian(highlydemandinganddirectivebutnotresp
2、onsive),authoritative(bothdemandingandresponsive),andindulgent(loandingness)Childrenfromauthoritarianfamilyareoftenaggressive,fearful,andanxious,theyoftenhaveunicationskills.Childrenassociatedindulgentfamilyareaggressive,spoiled,andnonpliant,theyhavedifficultiesinpeerrelations.Childrenassoc
3、iatedotionsareoftenaffectedbyparenting.Parentsarekids’firstimportantteachers.AccordingtoJohnGottman,“Parentsarekids’emotioncoachers,andtheyteachtheirkidsstrategiestodealorethanIQ,emotionalaineone’ssuccessandhappinessinallilyrelationships”(P20-21). Soit’sveryimportanttousegoodparentingathome
4、.Authoritativeparentingsisthebestparentingstyle,becauseitisgoodforchildren’semotiondevelopment,andbecauseauthoritativeparentsacknounconditionally,theycansetacceptablestandards,andtheyhelptopromotechildren’sindependence. Authoritativeparentscanunderstandtheirchildren’sfeelingandteachthemho.T
5、heyoftenhelpthemtofindappropriateoutletstosolveproblems.JohnGottmansaid,“Theydon’tignoreordenytheirkids’feelings.Nordotheybelittleorridiculetheirchildrenforemotionalexpression”(P38).Theyhaveknople,mysonfeltverysadandovetoanothercity.Hetalkedtomeaboutthat:“Mybestfriendovenextmonth.canIplayso
6、rrytohearthat.Don’teisnotfarfromhere.andhecanebacktovisitus.Also,youcanmakeanothergoodfriend.Youaboutmysadness.Aftertalking,hefeltbetterandbegantoknootionsandthoseoftheirlovedone.JohnGottmanbelieves,“Theycanseevalueintheirchildren’snegativeemotions;theyhavemorepatiencetobeepathizing,letting
7、themandfriendlyfamilyclimate.Thereisgoodmunicationbetily.Goodmunicationhelpschildrenandparentstodevelopconfidence,feelingsofself-ostimportantresponsibilitiesasparentsistolistentoourchildren,hearingnotonlytheirustshoustfeelentsofunderstandingshouldprecede
