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1、Book3Unit1PersonalityTheMiseryofShynessShynessisthecauseofmuchunhappinessforagreatmanypeople.Allkindsofpeopledescribethemselvesasshy:short,tall,dull,intelligent,young,old,slim,overweight.Shypeopleareanxiousandself-conscious;thatis,theyareexcessivelyconcernedwiththeirownappearanceandactions
2、.Worrisomethoughtsareconstantlyswirlingintheirminds:WhatkindofimpressionamImaking?Dotheylikeme?DoIsoundstupid?I'mugly.I'mwearingunattractiveclothes.Itisobviousthatsuchuncomfortablefeelingsmustaffectpeopleadversely.Aperson'sself-conceptisreflectedinthewayheorshebehaves,andthewayapersonbehav
3、esaffectsotherpeople'sreactions.Ingeneral,thewaypeoplethinkaboutthemselveshasaprofoundeffectonallareasoftheirlives.Forinstance,peoplewhohaveapositivesenseofself-worthorhighself-esteemusuallyactwithconfidence.Becausetheyhaveself-assurance,theydonotneedconstantpraiseandencouragementfromother
4、stofeelgoodaboutthemselves.Self-confidentpeopleparticipateinlifeenthusiasticallyandspontaneously.Theyarenotaffectedbywhatothersthinkthey"should"do.Peoplewithhighself-esteemarenothurtbycriticism;theydonotregardcriticismasapersonalattack.Instead,theyviewacriticismasasuggestionforimprovement.
5、Incontrast,shypeople,havinglowself-esteem,arelikelytobepassiveandeasilyinfluencedbyothers.Theyneedreassurancethattheyaredoing"therightthing".Shypeopleareverysensitivetocriticism;theyfeelitconfirmstheirinferiority.Theyalsofinditdifficulttobepleasedbycomplimentsbecausetheybelievetheyareunwor
6、thyofpraise.Ashypersonmayrespondtoacomplimentwithastatementlikethisone:"You'rejustsayingthattomakemefeelgood.Iknowit'snottrue."Itisclearthat,whileself-awarenessisahealthyquality,overdoingitisdetrimental,orharmful.Canshynessbecompletelyeliminated,oratleastreduced?Fortunately,peoplecanoverco
7、meshynesswithdeterminedandpatienteffortinbuildingself-confidence.Sinceshynessgoeshandinhandwithlackofself-esteem,itisimportantforpeopletoaccepttheirweaknessesaswellastheirstrengths.Forexample,mostpeoplewouldliketobe"A"studentsineverysubject.Itisnotfairforthemt
